They say good things happen when you least expect them.
Maybe there’s some partial truth to that.
I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on life and how drastically things have changed for me over the past several years. I was always hell-bent on having my life turn out a certain way that I forgot to enjoy the present moments, whether good or bad. I thought that if I kept looking for the things I thought would make me happy, I would find them.
It took a long time for me to accept that life is not linear. It’s not a step-by-step manual to be followed word for word. Truth be told, nothing works out according to schedule. Plans falter. People come and leave. Ideas fail. Opinions change. There’s zero wrong with any of these things– in fact, they make for great lessons and even better stories.
I remember being seventeen and having this idea that I would move to a big city to start over and get away from the monotony of my stagnant hometown. I guess I was partially right– I did move away. I did start over. I did get away. The problem with my grand idea was that it wasn’t entirely realistic. Looking at life through a rose-colored lens is unrealistic. Nobody told me how lonely it would be. Nobody told me about the debt I would accumulate up to my eyeballs. Nobody told me it would be one of the most refreshing, yet heartbreaking decisions I will have had made, to date.
Just one year ago I was engaged to the wrong person and lying to myself about our relationship. I can’t tell you if it was the insecurities keeping me from being completely honest with myself, or the inability to escape from my comfort zone that trapped me for the duration of that relationship. I wasn’t happy with myself, there was no way in hell I would be happy in a marriage. The moment I decided to put myself first was the moment I grew as a person. From that point forward I knew I needed to do whatever made me happy, regardless of what other people thought or what their reactions would be. I hurt a lot of people; but to be fair, a lot of people hurt me.
The way I live my life now is a complete 180 from what I had grown accustomed to for so long. It’s amazing what self-love, the desire to be better, and an open-mind can do for a person’s attitude. I still have bad days. I still cry, (a lot, might I add.) Along with all of my faults, I’ve grown mostly comfortable with how things are turning out. I can say that while although my life is hectic and crazy and I’ve made a lot of questionable decisions, I wouldn’t change a thing about it.
I worry a lot, I panic a lot, I think ahead a lot. But I’ve also overcome so much more than I could ever dream of putting into words. I’m becoming more and more comfortable with the unknown. I’m trying to stop questioning the good things in life and start accepting them at face value.
If you told me one year ago how my life would look like today, I would undoubtedly tell you to fuck off. I’m glad I changed.
Let those good times roll.