Why does society make us believe we need to meet grand expectations by nonexistent due dates?
When I was little I thought that I would have my life figured out by twenty-five. I thought I would be married and have kids and have a career. It seems like the closer I get to twenty-five, the more pressure there is towards having a college degree and having a sense of stability and having a family. We have painted this picture for ourselves and everyone around us that milestones need to be done in an orderly fashion.
How fuckin’ unrealistic is that?
I know people that had children at 20 and graduated college shortly after. I have friends who never went to college and make a substantial living. I know people who did things “by the book” and are still unhappy. Is there a happy medium? Why do we insist on following a timeline created for us because that’s what society tells us to do?
I always ask myself “Leah, when will you finally get your shit together?” as if any twenty-two year old is supposed to have life figured out. As I get older, I start to realize that no one really has it together. In fact, I’m willing to place money on none of us actually knowing what the hell we’re doing. You know what adults do? They fake it. They don’t know as much as we give them credit for. The grown-ups we spent our childhoods admiring are just as clueless as us, they’ve just spent longer practicing how to bullshit.
It’s tiring going through each day feeling like an adult failure. It’s defeating to look around the room and feel like you’re the only one who doesn’t have their life together. I don’t know about you, but I often beat myself up over it, even if it’s something I have no control over.
You know what that makes me? A time-waster, not a failure.
We fail to take into account that life is unpredictable and often surprising. That’s not a bad nor good thing–it is what it is. There’s enough pressure in our lives already, so why create unnecessary stress in our already taxing lives?
You know what I say to that?
Life is way too short to not enjoy where you are in the moment, even if it’s not where you’re “supposed” to be. Let go of expectations and allow yourself to feel free.
Until next time,