I’m no expert, but I’m willing to bet at least half of the girls that read this article have been in some sort of terrible, agonizing, heart-wrenching relationship. Whether it was physically or mentally abusive, or he banned you from having any privacy, or lied to you about his wherabouts to hide his classless acts. Maybe he put you down for your dreams and desires or made you lose friends for his own selfish act. It’s natural for hope to be lost amongst the heartache. It’s natural to lose self esteem when he’s making you feel like you are two inches tall. It’s natural to think that after every single relationship, they would all be shitty.
But here is why that is absolute and utter bullshit:
How are you supposed to have any idea that these people mean you harm? How are you supposed to know that after you poured your love into them, they would take away everything that you had? You don’t. You never do.
Just because you lose trust in the person that hurt you, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t trust new people that come into your life and seem to make it so much better. Learn to let go. Understand that not every guy you meet is out to turn your life into a living hell. Believe in honest souls. They exist and they will come to you if you let light in.
Losing your self esteem after he put you down for doing what you love or following your dreams is natural with time, but it does not mean you should. The greatest part about this world is the fact that everyone has a purpose and a talent, even if you don’t think you’ve found it yet.
Think about it.
Seriously think about it.
You have encountered someone so unhappy with how their lives turned out, they were willing to do anything in their power to get you on their level. They knew you had talent. They knew your purpose. They also knew they did not have one. How wonderful is that? Your abilities are radiating from you and it’s intimidating. That’s badass.
Sometimes you meet people in life and they seem too good to be true. As time goes on, they’re still just as amazing as they were when you first met them. What seemed too good to be true turns into your everyday life. It’s fascinating. You and I deserve that feeling.
If you haven’t met that person yet, you will. You will meet someone who opens the car door for you and wipes your tears away when you cry about bunnies and cute puppies. One day you will meet someone who surprises you with trips away from your hometown and who calls you beautiful every morning. They will take care of you, believe me.
When you find this person I want you to look back on your shitty relationship and smile. There was a reason the universe put you through hell. It all turned out the way it did for a reason. It’s all so beautiful and worth it. Take a ticket and sit for the ride.
You’ll thank me later.