One of the biggest personal obstacles that I face is loving who I am unconditionally. It’s really hard to wake up every day happy with who you are, especially knowing someone else is exactly who you wish to be. I struggle with my physical, mental, and emotional being every single day. I know I am not alone.
It’s really hard to get up in the morning and automatically love how you look. Between the people around you, the celebrities, the models… There is always someone who is “better” than you. It’s something that I have yet to accept. There will always be a girl who is prettier, smarter, and who has more to offer. The sooner you accept this, the easier the ride will be for you. The great part about this fact is that you are unique. There is no one who is just like you in the world, and I’d have to say that’s pretty remarkable. Although you are not the person you wish you could be, you have a lot to offer as well. Please take advantage of it. I promise, you are just as worthy as the next girl.
Personally, it’s hard for me to accept that I have friends attending big name universities living out their dream and becoming what they’ve always wanted to be. I’m thrilled that they are doing what they want to do, but sometimes it really kills me that I’m “stuck” behind. I struggle at a community college. I work two jobs. I rarely ever go out with friends. It seems as though I’m not doing enough or living my life to it’s fullest extent. It’s almost as if what I’m doing is just not cutting it. Deep down, I know I’m wrong. I’m doing a great thing for myself. I’m doing a lot more than a lot of kids my age and I should be overwhelmingly proud, but I’m too hard on myself. Don’t be like me. Be proud. Completely own your game. In the end, it doesn’t matter how or where you went as long as you did it.
Sometimes the lack of self esteem is enough to completely destroy your day. We have all been there. Sometimes we all feel the same way, that we aren’t “enough.”
But we are. We are all more than enough. I have yet to accept it myself, but I’m fully aware. Though there will always be someone “better” than you, there will never be another you. Maybe it is cliche, maybe it is dumb, but there is no denying the truth. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Be proud. Work hard. Don’t let anyone or anything get in the way of your grind. Embrace everything about you, even your flaws. The fact that you exist is so beautiful. We are all so beautiful.
There are going to be days that we will not want to get up out of bed. We will hate ourselves, put ourselves down, and beat ourselves up. However, you may learn from this. The great thing about these days is that it makes us stronger. We have to acknowledge our feelings even if we don’t want to. Facing our obstacles is a great way to overcome them.
Keep pushing on when you don’t want to. Smile at yourself in the mirror even if it is a little silly. Accept that you have flaws. Understand that these feelings do not have to last forever. Those who truly care for you will love you no matter how you feel about yourself.
I wish you the best of luck.