5 People to Avoid in Your Early Twenties

Your early twenties can be such an exciting and refreshing time in your life. Between going to school and finding yourself, focusing on a career you wish to pursue, and spending time with the people that matter the most; it’s truly special. The great thing about this time in your life is that you are still young. You don’t have to be committed to anything just yet, which makes life just a little lighter. Being positive and driven towards your future and what life has to offer is so important during this period. Unfortunately, some people lingering in your life may be harmful for you. Kick these people to the curb as soon as possible to relieve yourself from extra stress and discouragement.

The Moocher

Everyone knows a moocher. They don’t work, they don’t go to school, and they definitely don’t care. This person has no shame in stealing your food, your money, and your energy. The Moocher needs to be out of your life immediately, even if they are a so-called friend (Or even worse, a boyfriend/girlfriend). Before you know it, you’ll be broke, sad, and probably hungry.

The Downer

Everyone has bad days now and then and that is perfectly normal. However, if you are surrounded by someone who hates life, hates themselves, and finds a reason to complain about anything and everything- they have to go. It may sound harsh, but you will never truly be content in life with a person hovering of your shoulder and finding the bad in everything. The Downer is exhausting and you don’t need that keeping you down.

The Big Spender

There is always someone in your life that spends and spends without a second thought about it. I don’t know about you, but my mom definitely doesn’t help pay for my bills and my dad sure as hell wouldn’t if he was still here. These people can have a huge negative influence on you, perhaps convincing you to buy things you know you do not need or eat out when you should be paying off your credit card bill. Get away from these people before you find yourself spending more than you earn. (I’m still figuring this one out!)

The “Party-Before-Work” People

Maybe this is just me, but I cannot stand those who choose to party and go out before getting their work done. Students who treat college as a joke and use financial aid to buy booze are the worst kind of people, in my opinion. If you choose to hang around these types of individuals, prepare to fail out because you’ll probably end up in a bathtub of your own vomit on the morning of an exam. What the hell do I know, though?

The “Better than you” Crowd

You know these people. They drive nice cars, go to top universities/make great money, and have the nicest of everything. You best believe they will make you fully aware of how much better they are compared to you. This crowd will post pictures of their cars on Facebook with captions to make you feel like shit for owning a Toyota and not an Audi. They could definitely be a walking advertisement for Gucci, but they don’t care. I’m rather positive that these people do not have souls, so it’s probably best you stay far away. You don’t need these people discouraging your grind.

Before you know it, you’ll be grown with a family and have even more responsibility than you do now. Enjoy life in the moment without these people bringing you down in the process.

Good luck and have fun.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why You Should Trust After an Awful Relationship

I’m no expert, but I’m willing to bet at least half of the girls that read this article have been in some sort of terrible, agonizing, heart-wrenching relationship. Whether it was physically or mentally abusive, or he banned you from having any privacy, or lied to you about his wherabouts to hide his classless acts. Maybe he put you down for your dreams and desires or made you lose friends for his own selfish act. It’s natural for hope to be lost amongst the heartache. It’s natural to lose self esteem when he’s making you feel like you are two inches tall. It’s natural to think that after every single relationship, they would all be shitty. 

But here is why that is absolute and utter bullshit:

How are you supposed to have any idea that these people mean you harm? How are you supposed to know that after you poured your love into them, they would take away everything that you had? You don’t. You never do.

Just because you lose trust in the person that hurt you, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t trust new people that come into your life and seem to make it so much better. Learn to let go. Understand that not every guy you meet is out to turn your life into a living hell. Believe in honest souls. They exist and they will come to you if you let light in.

Losing your self esteem after he put you down for doing what you love or following your dreams is natural with time, but it does not mean you should. The greatest part about this world is the fact that everyone has a purpose and a talent, even if you don’t think you’ve found it yet. 

Think about it.

Seriously think about it.

You have encountered someone so unhappy with how their lives turned out, they were willing to do anything in their power to get you on their level. They knew you had talent. They knew your purpose. They also knew they did not have one. How wonderful is that? Your abilities are radiating from you and it’s intimidating. That’s badass. 

Sometimes you meet people in life and they seem too good to be true. As time goes on, they’re still just as amazing as they were when you first met them. What seemed too good to be true turns into your everyday life. It’s fascinating. You and I deserve that feeling. 

If you haven’t met that person yet, you will. You will meet someone who opens the car door for you and wipes your tears away when you cry about bunnies and cute puppies. One day you will meet someone who surprises you with trips away from your hometown and who calls you beautiful every morning. They will take care of you, believe me.

When you find this person I want you to look back on your shitty relationship and smile. There was a reason the universe put you through hell. It all turned out the way it did for a reason. It’s all so beautiful and worth it. Take a ticket and sit for the ride. 

You’ll thank me later. 

Loving Yourself (Even When You Think You Can’t)

One of the biggest personal obstacles that I face is loving who I am unconditionally. It’s really hard to wake up every day happy with who you are, especially knowing someone else is exactly who you wish to be. I struggle with my physical, mental, and emotional being every single day. I know I am not alone.
It’s really hard to get up in the morning and automatically love how you look. Between the people around you, the celebrities, the models… There is always someone who is “better” than you. It’s something that I have yet to accept. There will always be a girl who is prettier, smarter, and who has more to offer. The sooner you accept this, the easier the ride will be for you. The great part about this fact is that you are unique. There is no one who is just like you in the world, and I’d have to say that’s pretty remarkable. Although you are not the person you wish you could be, you have a lot to offer as well. Please take advantage of it. I promise, you are just as worthy as the next girl. 

Personally, it’s hard for me to accept that I have friends attending big name universities living out their dream and becoming what they’ve always wanted to be. I’m thrilled that they are doing what they want to do, but sometimes it really kills me that I’m “stuck” behind. I struggle at a community college. I work two jobs. I rarely ever go out with friends. It seems as though I’m not doing enough or living my life to it’s fullest extent. It’s almost as if what I’m doing is just not cutting it. Deep down, I know I’m wrong. I’m doing a great thing for myself. I’m doing a lot more than a lot of kids my age and I should be overwhelmingly proud, but I’m too hard on myself. Don’t be like me. Be proud. Completely own your game. In the end, it doesn’t matter how or where you went as long as you did it. 
Sometimes the lack of self esteem is enough to completely destroy your day. We have all been there. Sometimes we all feel the same way, that we aren’t “enough.”
But we are. We are all more than enough. I have yet to accept it myself, but I’m fully aware. Though there will always be someone “better” than you, there will never be another you. Maybe it is cliche, maybe it is dumb, but there is no denying the truth. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Be proud. Work hard. Don’t let anyone or anything get in the way of your grind. Embrace everything about you, even your flaws. The fact that you exist is so beautiful. We are all so beautiful. 
There are going to be days that we will not want to get up out of bed. We will hate ourselves, put ourselves down, and beat ourselves up. However, you may learn from this. The great thing about these days is that it makes us stronger. We have to acknowledge our feelings even if we don’t want to. Facing our obstacles is a great way to overcome them. 
Keep pushing on when you don’t want to. Smile at yourself in the mirror even if it is a little silly. Accept that you have flaws. Understand that these feelings do not have to last forever. Those who truly care for you will love you no matter how you feel about yourself. 
I wish you the best of luck. 

4/4/16 12:04 a.m

If I knew how to save a shattered soul, 
You’d still be here today.
If I knew how to fix a broken heart,
I would’ve done anything to make you stay. 
7 years and counting,
The pain will never fade.
If heaven does exist,
I hope you’re there today. 
Life goes on and  wounds seem to heal,
But the ache is something I will always feel.
I love you much and miss you dearly,
I pray that you can hear me clearly.
The dreams I have at night just prove,
You are here, the thought does soothe.
When all is said and time has gone,
I’m glad that I have moved along.
You will always be father,
Today and always, and even longer. 

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