Ladies, we have all done it. You spend hours perfecting your image in hopes of taking a selfie worthy enough to be posted on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook. You sit back, grasp ahold of each ‘like’, and suddenly you are reassured of everyone’s approval. But why?
Why do we have to look a certain way, dress a certain way, or act a certain way in order to feel that we are complete? Why must we spend hours on social media in an attempt to find new ways to soak up attention? The harsh truth is that these ‘likes’ or ‘favorites’ will not determine your worth. They will not make a difference on your death bed. Honestly, they are not worth shit.
I am no stranger to this topic. I, just like everyone else my age, post selfies and statuses and try to make myself look cooler than I am. In all reality, I am just a 19 year old college freshman. I work at a gas station and I sleep a lot. But to my hundreds of followers across the web, I’m sure I look much more appealing than that.
Tonight, somewhere between self-loathing and enjoying my one (wo)man pity party, I have come to the realization that this is all just really exhausting. I am tired of crying because my body does not look the same of every other girl on the Internet. I am tired of comparing myself to everyone else. I am especially tired of thinking that social media makes one person better than the other.
Confidence needs to come from within and not by people on your Facebook friend list. It is not easy. Confidence is an everyday battle. I surely haven’t gotten it nailed down just right yet. However, I am trying, and I hope you are too.
So before you post that selfie and spend your whole day counting the amount of ‘likes’ you receive on it, please remember you are beautiful with or without them.